We See You Staring

By A Poem by Heather Bustamante


We see you staring.

You are not invisible. You are not a figment of our imagination. You are real.

Just like we are.

We see you staring.

I can feel the tension in my head. I can see the frustration in his eyes. I find myself standing taller. I can see him holding his head up high.

We see you staring.

Don’t feel sorry for us. Don’t feel bad for us.

Don’t stare us down.

Don’t try and figure it out…because we haven’t figured it out either.

We see you staring.

To answer your questions… Yes, something is wrong. Yes, we are not your average young couple. Yes, there was a life-changing event. But we made it…

We see you staring.

We see you feeling sorry for us.

Don’t feel sorry for us.

We are stronger then you can ever imagine.

We see you staring.

He is a young stroke survivor, I am a young caregiver.

Together we did it.

Together we survived.

Together, we see you staring.

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